Randall Twehous: sofia you are just plain sick
Julieta Suleiman: well, when i was 12 i was aloud to be home alone. you should let them be alone when they are respondsible enough!Between the ages of 12-13 is a good age!
Sharron Salin: Im 25, my "aunt" is 27, my "cousin" is 10. My grandma got frisky at an old age, so I'm about the same age as my dad's youngest sister. Any who, her son acts so bad, we want to strap him to a chair, and use subliminal messaging to get good behavior into his head. Do reform schools and boarding schools still exist that correct little boys behavior?She's ready to do it. She's at her wits end. Like bootcamp for bad kids?...Show more
Shandi Wedge: Maybe they didn't think you were being stern enough. Not saying you weren't, but I would have tossed my kid in the cart with no warnings if I had to chase him down.
Norma Marsalis: its kool ... jus not too serious .. nothing all by urselvesif u like her -- yaa
Leann Villalt! a: I'd wait at least until the 7 year old is 14 to leave for the night, otherwise he may not be able to control the little ones. During the day the oldest could be 11 or 12...
Connie Dickirson: Absolutly fine. when i was 12 i dated a 15 year old.
Rosalva Steinmann: Their just 2 years apart. What's wrong with that?
Salvatore Walls: It's normal. They're still in high school. And it's only a two year age difference. It's not like he's over 18.
Chanda Wittwer: My mom used to explain that we better not embarass her in the store. Dont touch anything, dont ask for anything, and stay by her side. If caught disobeying she quietly would sneek up on us and give us the most silent, most painful, stinging pinch just under the arm. It would cause a SILENT cry and we always knew she meant business. That way it looks like a child that is just crying and no one saw or heard what she did. And for those dirty looks. Tell them to KMA. Kiss My Yoo Hoo. Its better that yo! u discipline now than for society to have to do it later....Sh! ow more
Dick Baumgarten: Being a parent in the outside world i so tough because no matter what you will never do right by anyone else no matter what you do. I discipline my children at home as i do in public, i tell them off i give them two warning and options if they want to continue to do the wrong thing they will get time out (if we are in public as soon as we get home..time out) and they don't get rewarded until they do the right thing. Its mine and my husbands choice how we raise our kids just as its your choice how you raise yours, nobody has the right to criticize or even stare at you in a critical way because its got nothing to do with them how you respond to bad behavior....Show more
Jade Ohno: It depends on the circumstances. You do not want the guy to be pressuring the girl into doing things she does not feel comfortable with, or vice versa. Other than that, if they feel they are in a mature relationship, then I believe it's okay. It's not even tha! t big of an age gap.
Aubrey Tirri: She's too young to be dating one-on-one. Group dates would be OK, though.
Gus Leiby: relax, it's only a 2 year age difference.
Iris Shawcroft: 5cal. My kids are 3,5,and7. A friend of mine has a 14 yr.old son. She wanted to ask the other question that u r talking about. you=good observation :)
Roosevelt Pendill: My boys are still way too little to be left alone. (3,5,and7)I was just dreaming about the day I can go somewhere by myself, without having to get a babysitter.Or, for the night, my husband and I can go out without getting a babysitter.When do you all think is a good age for 3 siblings to be left at home to watch each other?Would you leave 3 girls alone before you'd leave 3 boys alone- you know, because boys are more destructive?Just curious!...Show more
Carolin Southers: i thought you had a son of 14(15 in 3 months).
Elfreda Grossen: Fine as long as the older guy does not preddure the younger! girl into anything.
Madie Strople: You did a right thing, what! people around think doesn't matter in this case. Any disciplining works best when you do it right away on the spot, not some time after, when you get home. So, if you want to be in public with your child, you better get used to the idea that you'll have to restrain and even punish him in front of other people sometimes. And in situations when the behavior problem is repeating, it's especially important to be consistent, so you can't skip one time and let him do whatever he wants just because you are in public....Show more
Gabriel Realmuto: i think when the oldest one turns 12 i would feel comfortable letting them stay home alone. no i wouldn't feel better about girls staying home alone. the same age for girls to. 12.
Dick Maisenbacher: 2 years. Both teens, both in H.S. I think it's fine
Romana Stiman: My suggestion would be "if you can't act appropriately in the store we have to leave", and then take him out to sit in the car and chill for a while. ! The end goal would be for him to calm down, realize it sucks being in the car with you and nothing to do, and be content to go back into the store to finish shopping. I'd also make changes next time we go to the store and make sure that he'd had plenty of time to run around and whatnot before going in, just to make sure he wasn't going stir crazy from being calm for too long. He's still young enough that I'd also suggest making sure he's not tired, hungry, or bored before going to the store.My observations show me that the dirty looks usually come when you parent on either end of the spectrum. Either Mom is too relaxed and lets a child get away with everything with out caring, or Mom is too much of a jerk and acts like a tyrant maniac, both resulting in lots of dirty looks. Generally, parenting in the middle that is firm but fair doesn't get as many looks, at least from what I've noticed....Show more
Pamela Meno: I don't think some of you are getting it.... She gi! ves the kid the belt when he behaves badly. She spanks him until his bu! tt is raw, but then he gets up and leaves and laughs and kicks everything down in his room, and throws tantrums. This time last year, she took away his friends, and put him in home school. Everyday he get's up and does his school work, and he's allowed 60 minutes of outside play everyday. He can play with my 2 kids, which they behave great, they listen, and do what they're told. I mean... I think the only thing that this kids does do right is get decent grades (As/Bs)...Show more
Antonette Shappy: My goodness! At 16 I'd say he should definately be left alone in the house. How else will he learn to be responsible? My son is 13 and I have left him on his own for upto 4 hours (rather than drag him around the clothes stores!). He has strict instructions not to answer the door or cook anything. He has my mobile number and neighbours to call on if need be. He is a very independent responsible young man. Having said that, only you know when your child is ready.
Lana Ul! iano: 5cal. My kids are 3,5,and7. A friend of mine has a 14 yr.old son. She wanted to ask the other question that u r talking about. you=observation :)
Idell Dufort: I hate when this happens. If you let them run wild they glare, if you do the parent thing and discipline they glare as well. I am not sure why it is but man is it annoying.
Stevie Kizziar: I think it's fine..
Cliff Jacoby: Today my 4 going on 5 yr old was tearing threw the grocery store. He's active to begin with but is normally some what well behaved in the store. After 2 lanes of him running back and forth I firmly (not meanly) took him by the arm and told him that if he could not act appropriately in the store I would place him in the cart. I got SOOOOO many dirty looks. Should I have just let him run wild??
Cornelius Thornborrow: maybe before you go in a store, state your expectations and resulting action if said expectations are not met. then, instead of telling him he is goin! g in a cart, put him in. 5 years old is too old to be acting like that.! my children would get bored when we did shopping, so i let them bring their "lists" and we would check off items that we found along the way and i let them "pay" at check out if they were cooperative. they are 6and 7 now, they still like to "pay".
Kellie Waycott: Well, I believe 12 is the age that kids are allowed to babysit...so I think I would kinda of go along with those guidelines when leaving my kids home alone. Especially when looking after the younger ones. But not over night. At least 15 for over night. When your oldest is 15, then your youngest will be about 11, so they will all be old enough to know what to do in an emergency. I feel like I would leave boys home alone earlier, but I think thats cause I have girls and never want to leave them alone lol...and because my brother was home alone before I was, but thats cause he was older, so it really makes no sense. but yea, I wouldn't leave any child home alone before age 12. :)...Show more
Roland Stamp! ley: I think its perfectly fine. But maybe group dates, or hanging out w/supervision would be better than dinner/movie one on one.
Hugo Pittari: The 14 year old should not even be dating yet and the 16 year old should not be steady dating.
Jed Mutone: I remember when my kids were toddlers. If they threw a tantrum and I had to leave the store or refused to give in when they pleaded for candy- I got awful looks and whispers right in front of my face. If I had given in, though, those people would be posting on y!a about how spoiled some kids are today.you cannot freaking win so don't even try. people are weirdos. Do what you have to do.
Refugio Gastineau: Well, if your oldest son is going to be in charge of his brothers, I'd say not until he was about 13. You would still have to check in now and then, to make sure everything was running smoothly, but you would still have your night.
Kaylee Schmittou: Nothing wrong with that.
Ronnie Panas: i thi! nk you did the right thing i do the same thing with my daughters an so ! does my brothers with his sons.who cares about what people think or how they stare at you for what you did they would have done the same thing too or even worst.
Eleni Mccier: Well, punishments are always counter-productive, and in this case you can clearly see it! Hitting a child in this way is seriously abusive, and while some would go deep into depression, this poor little guy has clearly separated himself emotionally from his family so as to keep some semblance of self-esteem.Good parents do NOT use punishments or manipulations, but address issues WITH their children, discussing and explaining boundaries, and finding mutually acceptable solutions to problems, right from toddlerhood. Children raised in non-coercive punishment-free homes do not behave badly at 10, unless they're sick or seriously stressed. And even then, they know that they can talk to their parents and work through solutions together.I don't know what you can do about this boy, but suggest that th! e adults in his life take a serious look at their appalling parenting, apologise for the abuse they have committed, and start treating him like a human being. The book 'How to talk so kids will listen...' is a good starting point for learning how to be a positive parent....Show more
Kalyn Proietto: When the youngest child was 12 I would let them stay at home alone together.
Morris Olexy: Depends on State law and maturity level of the children.Sometimes the middle child is more mature than the eldest. etc.I left my now 17yo at home from age 9. Yes, that was legal and approved by CPS. However her little sister at age 11 I still wont do that.Best of luck...Show more
Willie Tun: Everything, including ritalin and "Scared Straight" program have been tried. You name it, this kid just sits there and laughs, and then goes off to call a kid fat or bite or refuse to clean his room again. We have done everything just short of being illegal.
Rodrigo Pezley: It al! l depends on the kids. Some are ready a lot sooner than others. You s! hould look at are they able to react in an emergency, do they have self help skills, do they know important phone #'s, etc.I have a 9 almost 10 year old that is fine alone and has been for years (for short periods of time). He knows all numbers and is very mature. On the other hand my little girl I am not sure that she will ever be ready. They are just very different and react different. I guess the key is to know you kids and go with your personal feelings....Show more
Davida Gisriel: Absolutely not! Those same people would give you the dirty looks if you let him run wild, too. People are so amazingly judgmental - especially when they don't have children or their children are grown.Telling him you'd put him in the cart is a completely appropriate thing to do. That gives him a choice. He can choose to control himself or he can end up in the cart. You may have already done this, but I'll mention it anyway. Talk to him before you go in the store about what behaviour! you expect from him and what will happen if if doesn't do it. Have HIM tell YOU what the rules are and what will happen to be sure he knows. Another idea that would be very good at his age is to make a list so he could "shop" for things. You could put words like "milk", "cheese", "apples" along with pictures of each and he has to find them and put them in the cart. This will help keep him occupied. I also used to bring a snack and drink for my dd and put her in the cart to start with, but she liked riding in the cart. We used to sing sometimes, too. (Talk about getting looks . . . LOL)...Show more
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